Speaking to the Business Insider, psychotherapist and author M. Gary Neuman says there are 5 simple and scientifically proven steps to make someone fall in love with you. Gary says each of the steps encourages attractiveness and inspires feelings that could lead to a long-term connection.

1. Maintain consistent eye contact 

Scientist Zick Rubin’s study states that people who are in love, maintain eye contact 75% of the time. Neumann says that by maintaining eye contact, you’ll increase intimacy by looking away less.

2. Be a good listener

Neumann sites a study by a group of psychologists at the University of Nevada and the University of Washington that listening is key to making someone fall in love with you.

Neumann says we love to have people show an interest in who we are and what we experience and how we feel about those experiences and that wanting to be heard is a primal need.

In order for this to work Neumann says don’t react to what the other person is saying by making the conversation about you, instead ask follow up questions and respond with compassion.


The same study says that those questions and compassion form the next step to making someone fall in love with you and that step is Validation. 

3. Validation

Neuman says that your partner needs to feel like a winner, a feeling that he says leads directly to love. Neuman says a person is more likely to love you if they feel like they are getting it right with you. Citing the study, 48% of couples who were in failed relationships cited not feeling appreciated at home. 

4. Smiling

Citing a study from Drake University smiling is also key to making someone fall in love with you, because smiling makes you look more attractive, engaging and makes you look more like a winner says Neumann.

5. Touch


And finally Touch according to a Harvard University study says that people who touched each other more, led to them reporting increased overall satisfaction. Neumann says that touching increases comfort and so improves intimacy.  

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